Self- Reflection

The question I repeated in my head almost daily, until I finally got the hang of it. What is self-reflection?
Now I'm really excited to explain it to you and It's something I'm clearly very passionate about, I'll tell you why .....
BUT WAIT, Lets back up a little bit before I tell you that,..... back to the question, (Now, what is self-reflection? Why do we need this? What's so important about it all, oh what's the big fuss?

I think its best I begin to explain the term self- reflection first.
Human self-reflection is the capacity of humans to exercise introspection and the willingness to learn more about their fundamental nature, purpose and essence. The earliest historical records demonstrate the great interest which humanity has had in itself. Human self-reflection invariably leads to inquiry into the human condition and the essence of humankind as a whole. man self-reflection is related to the philosophy of consciousness, the topic of awareness, consciousness in general and the philosophy of mind.

Okay Lady Couture but what does this have to do with me?

I say everything... See it's important for all of us to do the basic ground work before we can figure it all out.....
.. and the basis to start is by self - Reflection. Now don’t be fooled self-reflection is not all smooth sailing, it can be an intense and rocky process whereby you uncover not only the good about who you are but also the scary little bad bits. The great thing about Embarking on a reflection trip is that you can identify all imperfections and as I call them, development areas to change yourself into the beautiful butterfly you dream to be. It is not an easy challenge to take on and it is best to wait until you are truly ready to make some serious life changing developments. It will definitely help you to become more Assertive in communication styles and float easier through life. In the end, it all it boils down to building that place inside ourselves, the place we call our self-esteem. That you can only find by finding out who you really are. Let's face it, no matter who you are, we all have dreams, hopes and goals and its sad that only some get to really achieve them. I ask why is this, Is it because they know it all? They are the most hardworking? They are meant too? AND my answer to these three questions always comes back the same. The answer is.... NO!. No they are not but I do believe that there is a common factor that most achievers hold. Ask them, they will all tell you echo they are! My point in the whole blah blah blah is....

Start Self-reflection!!!!!!!!! .......The sooner you start the better.

here's How I self-reflected today...

I found my self in a bath hot bath, I'm one who simply loves hot baths, (thinking, how I've been waiting all day for this warm bath with lots of bubblebath, and hot water) that's the way I like it :) .. As I'm lying in the warm foamy water. I washed myself down just twice from head to toe with cool silky liquid body wash. Before you know it, I got out up and ready to towel down, ...

I had this sudden thought, it hit me..(An influx of questioning running thru my head)... Why am I getting out of this bath so soon when I waited all day to be here? Why is my heart racing right now? I placed my hand next to my head and felt a trimbling of emotions..as if I didn't know how to handle this bath)....

now then, right then and there I questioned myself., is it cos u love this? Is cos u there, waited so long to get what u have right now the bubble bath of your day, the one thing that makes ur day?.. Is that your about to run away?

I immediately reffered and compared this to my life, I questioned myself, why do I run away from things that make me feel good? Why do I work absolutely hard to get what I want and just when I'm almost there, I let a little bit of heat frighten me away?...
BACK TO THE STORY>>>

So I than decided to sit on the side of the bath.. There's no way I'm getting out of this bath right now, there's no way I'm running away from goodness anymore.. I sat there on the side of the bath with my legs half way in the water and the rest of me out of the heat wave. Some more body wash on my peach colored wash cloth, and washed my legs down. I soon got into the enjoyment again once I have declared to myself that YOU ARE NOT GOING ANYWHERE...hehehe!

For a moment there I felt a sence of achievement. My legs were still in the water at least I didn't go.. The lather felt so good on my skin. So there I was thinking... (Even though I'm not fully immerged in the water , at least my legs are still in there!) I soon jumped back in the water..

It hit me, I was back, back in my goodness and all of a sudden the heat wasn't so much.. It just felt perfect.. fully emerged in the water, I kept thinking and saying out loud to myself..(This is indeed the longest and nicest bath I've ever had!)...

A sudden memory just popped up, made me think back to when my last time I had a bath like this. I was in my teen years.., and immediately I knew I was beginning to open new doors and even opening shut ones too.

I'm on a new journy and self discovery is about to revele the real me to me like I can never imagine.... I'm on my way, and scared of what I'm about to discover about me, but not even the fear is gonna stop me this time. I'm to ready to find me!....
BACK TO THE STORY>>>

I then proceeded to the room to put some lotion on and get dressed. Here I was standing in front of the mirror and looking at me. Asking myself, what is it that you see? I couldn't answer that question. Guess because I'm not there yet. This didn't bother me much so I proceded with placing some lotion on my hand. I started rubbing the lotion on to my face and there it was, another light bulb moment...

...( Mmmmmhhh this feels so good, can't I keep doing that?, like forever??)..this thought stuck with me and the more it suck, the longer I kept on rubbing my face, I soon felt like I was drifting away to aaaahaaaa zone, no its lala land, no wait maybe heaven??.. What ever I was it, didn't matter much cos all that seemed to matter this moment was the feeling on my face and the realisation that pleasing me right now. It's my no1 priority, I satrted referencing this to my life, why do I expect people to be nice to me? Why do I expect touch from other, just because I like touch??..

The realization started there and my self-reflection gain is:
I should be nice to me more often, I shuould be touching me..cos see here, I know just how too!... This self-discovery thing is becoming way interesting..

As I walked to the lounge to get my conditioner I walked and somewhat spopped for a while cos all of a sudden I felt this humagus influx of love, peace and clarity?? What's this? Why am I feeling so high? .. Could it be that I'm falling inlove with me?.. Could it be that I'm feeling all this love for myself.. And there it hit me... I feel like this Because I was nice to me, I did something to please me, and now I'm grateful to myself. We project this kind of energy all the time, by thanking and being grateful for what others do for us or when its returned, I just did that by l that by being really nice to the self. When you look into the power of this energy, you'll find that it should absolutely be treasured as it just produces more good in one's life... And now I know how to project it in self!

I like the, Nice to me thing, It all starts with simply acknowledgment and the rest is history!




Be inspired!!

Journey to self discovery

Its time for change, its time for the release of the old, the unneeded and the hold backs. I felt this change surfacing since the new year approached but little did I know that it was about to get allot more interesting..

Have u ever felt like its about time for your life to begin?.OR maybe just that you feel in your soul that their is more to your life and dreams then what u see now? Whether u have already established your career and family and there doesn't seem to be much wrong with your life as per society you seem to have the ideal perfect little life? When that feeling haunts you and you seem to loose all focus on the other stuff. Its time to take yourself and that calling seriously!


As per this I'm about to remark on the long awaited JOURNEY TO FINDING ME. I know what's to do. I know what's required and I know it won't be easy but the hunger for the achievement will haunt me forever if I don't take this leap of faith right now..


For starters, 1 month of self cleansing.
In this process I will start at the ground work and most essential aspect of the entire journey. The body, soul, mind cleansing process whereby I meditate daily, eat differently by putting only good food into my body. Self reflect and pray. This will be the first step to my discovery and I'm willing to share my journey with you. There will daily/ weekly posts on the development and changes that I face on this path..off course the free time factor applies here as well. Starting Day 1 tomorrow..


What is your feelings and thoughts about this Nique?
I'm excited to see what lays beyond to uncover and I'm a little sad for all the nice nice that I'll be giving up along the way. The hope, dreams and visions that I have for myself are important to me right now but I'm more interested to see what God indeed has in store for me. I'm putting both the time and faith into being open to depart from Nicky dreams and see what God dreams are for me. (So very excited here...hehehe!) ...a sense of awareness coming on really strongly. Can't shake the feeling but I know that Awareness is the first step in the creation process. As you grow in self awareness you will better understand why you feel what you feel and why you behave as you behave. That understanding then gives you the opportunity and freedom to change those things you’d like to change about yourself and create the life you want. Without knowing who you are, self acceptance and change become impossible. Hence the reason I am taking on this process to finally see who it is I am and what it is God wants for me. (So still, a very excited face!)




June 10
Day prior to the cleansing season

I'm preparing for my big path starting tomorrow. Its lunch time now and I'm a little confused about what to put in my body. One part of me wants to eat as much junk food as possible cos I don't know if ill ever go back to wanting it. The other half of me wants to take it easy, simple and eat as light and healthy as possible to prepare but the biggest part of me is just confused!..

My meal today will be 6 lightly fried fish fingers in butter with a glass of Coca Cola. I was a bit tempted to do more but I opted for a little aromat on my fish finger instead. With a rather strange craving for nicotine as well. I might just indulge with a cigarette. For old times sake off course

Prayer meditation for the day?
Lord come into my life today. I invite you on my transformation. Take and make with my hopes, dreams and visions as you please. Change my body to you like and move in ways that constantly shock and surprise me. You know I love surprises, Amen

Bible Verse of the day:
Acts 21:35 its more blessed to give than to receive


Until tomorrow,



Be inspired!

Geeeezzzzzz, Its been so long since I’ve sat down and written. I have so much to say, there is just so much to catch up on! Awwwww this feels so good …but I suppose I will be writing a lot more now as I’m taking a newness in journey through life. Life has been kinder to me now and I finally have something called a little bit more free time on my hands.............. ......... Today My blog will be about my life and the realizations that I’ve discovered recently! ............... ...........

Don’t you find life to always be filled with stress? Doesn’t it seem like there is always something that happens which encompasses our entire attention, and thus drain our positive energy? As our society grows more and more complex, finding true peace becomes more like trying to find an oasis in the desert. My life is a busy one as well, as I have been working long hours and late shifts for the past year now. All of the stress & demands that comes with it, definitely takes its toll over time. Recently my body actually exhaused its self and gave in, guess that was my body telling me to slow down and in this process of being house bound and sick I actually realized a lot about myself, my heath, and it forced me to go back to the drawing board and find the basics again. Therefore, I wanted to take this opportunity to share with you some of the methods that I use and discovered to make use off in my life daily now.... ............

........................ Accept what is I have personally been fighting agaist so many things in my life. Be it family, work life, social or goals but finally realized that I cant compete with what is suppose to be in life. I cant run away from faith or destiny anymore, so this is my new take on it.....There is only so much we can affect. What we cannot change, what we cannot influence no matter what, should not be a concern to us. This is what I notice with so many people, in that we focus and linger on things which we have no control over. Why worry about something that all the worrying in the world will not change? Why care about what other people think of us when we’re not even sure what it is they are actually thinking? Once you open the blinds to this fact, and start accepting what is that you cannot change, you automatically relieve yourself of a mountain of stress and anxiety. It’s like a huge weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Taking this path is following a road towards peace......... I have been reading up on how to meditate. Daily meditation can have an enormous impact in all areas of your life. Try it, what do you have to loose? lol, yes I have...even taking a yoga class now and believe me,if you do not meditate yet, you are missing out on a very important activity that can change your life. Meditating for just 20 minutes a day is all it takes….............. ..................

Last week I found myself with a pile of washing to do and as I hung the washing up I took some time to relax in the outside world....A place I feel we spend to little time in. It made me see and notice things again like insects walking around on the sand and clearly hearing the sound of a dog bark or bird flying by...As a kid I use to love these sounds, I use to love taking a train ride with my gran and I could stand at the window for hours passing by just to adore nature. Be one with nature and dream...:) made me think of how long its been since I have really started dreaming again..............

................. So on my to do list now is to Spend time in nature….much,much more time, hehehe!..............

............ We spend so much time confined in buildings of steel and concrete and bricks that we quickly forget where we come from. It is natural for us to be in nature, and this is why it feels so good and it is so peaceful when you take a walk in a park or bike on a trail in the woods. As I am typing this blog, I am looking out my window to this gigantic tree in front of my house. Watching its stillness, with the wind blowing through its branches calmly, it is a sight that not only inspires me, but that I find peace within it. I have blogged before about how I enjoy biking and one of the reasons is that it brings me closer to nature. It is something you just can’t experience in a car. If you feel overwhelmed, take a stroll outside where there are tons of trees and far from the city. Be there and just enjoy the sights, the sounds, and the peace..............

................... Learn the power of a smile

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Whenever you are laughing or smiling, something interesting happens. Not only does something happen on a chemical level to make you feel better, but it also stops all stress and negativity from entering your psyche. A simple smile can make such a difference. For example, the other day I mishandled a dish and it fell on the floor, breaking into pieces, creating a big mess. Now, I could have been angry with myself for being clumsy and thinking “here’s another reason why life sucks!”. But I did the opposite. I began to smile and kind of make fun of myself for not being able to hold on to that plate properly. As I cleaned up the mess, there was no bitterness or anger. As a matter of fact, I did it with a smile on my face…I did it with peace. So whenever you find yourself in a similar predicament, just think of the silver lining, and don’t be shy to poke fun at yourself. You will quickly realize that peace finds its way much more easily to you when you smile. 

Think outwardly What I mean by this is that most of the time, we are so consumed within our own problems that we can no longer see the forest from the trees. Therefore, it helps to remind ourselves how big the world is. Take a moment and read up about some other countries, cultures, and the likes. Be aware that the world does not revolve around your problems. I find that when I hear about a tsunami or an earthquake killing hundreds of thousands of people on the other side of the world, my problems aren’t really “problems”. Looking beyond ourselves is very important in finding peace and it leads me to my next point. Just yesterday I was dumb struck talking to my sister about my cousin and all his problems. How he struggles daily and how the little things that we take for granted would make the world of difference to him and his family. Just thinking now, how many hundreds of others face the same challenges daily? It simply saddens me to just walk to the garage during my lunch time at work to get a pie when I see a little boy begging for money just to buy a loaf of bread. The little things like that is what I’m referring to. It really does wonders for one’s inner self to jus acknowledge these outward thoughts!.................

......................... Care about others You will never find peace by being self-consumed and only worrying about your own needs and wants. When you begin to genuinely care about other people, so much goodness comes right out. This only helps into solidifying your inner peace. It can be people close to you or pure strangers, but any act of kindness and goodwill eases your way towards peace. When I help other people, I stop focusing on my so-called problems and realize that my life isn’t so bad after all. This rids my entire being of all the stress and feelings of overwhelm. There is great peace and wisdom in thinking and caring about other people, which we are blind to when we are too deep within our own selfish ways. Never lose hope.........

............... Hope is something you can never afford to lose. With hope you always have a path towards peace. Whenever we get too stressed out and overwhelmed within our own life, we forget that hope. We forget that the sun always shines after a rainy day, and that this is merely a bump in the road. I find immense peace in just knowing, deep within my heart, that everything will be ok. With hope, I know that whatever is seemingly terrible, is only temporary and that soon enough, things will be just fine. This lifts off all of that negativity from my entire being, and I feel better pretty much instantly. Like my grandmother use to say, (more is n noge dag)…in Afrikaans, all is simply means is that tomorrow you will have another chance and new hope.............. ................

Embrace your beliefs.............

............... I am not one to pick or favor one belief system over another, so whatever it is that you believe in, embrace it with your entire being. Be within your faith 100% and peace will find its way into your heart. Now, we may all disagree on each other’s beliefs but one thing we must all agree on is that having a solid, healthy faith is crucial in founding a proper conscience that helps into guiding us towards peace and wisdom. There is a reason why research has shown that people that are deeply devoted to their faith have a higher life expectancy and are less likely to have diseases such as cancer. This is because they experience more inner peace, which is important if you want to increase the quality of your life...............

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Keep learning.........

.............. One thing that provides us with much stress in life is the fact that we always worry about not having all the answers. Just accepting that you do not know everything, and that you are open to always keep learning is a tremendous step to take towards achieving inner peace. I find great joy in learning all kinds of different things, and just being aware that I am growing as a person each and every day provides me with great feelings of peace. Accept that life is one big journey of never-ending learning and you will find yourself closer to experiencing true peace within yourself.............

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Live in the present moment...............
............... Most of the time, what we worry about is relating to something either in the past, or something that hasn’t happened. Living in the present moment erases all such thoughts. Why worry about something in the past that we cannot ever change? ………..

These are my new decisions and rules for living, I hope it inspires you to try it or to maybe sit down and search and discover your own paved way to get through this wonderful unknown journey called life! ……. Be inspired!